Category Archives: Self development

A pound of butter


There was a farmer who sold a pound of butter to the baker. One day the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he was getting a pound and he found that he was not. This angered him and he took the farmer to court. The judge asked the farmer if he was using any measure. The farmer replied, amour Honour, I am primitive. I don’t have a proper measure, but I do have a scale.” The judge asked, “Then how do you weigh the butter?” The farmer replied “Your Honour, long before the baker started buying butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it is the baker.”

What is the moral of the story? We get back in life what we give to others. Whenever you take an action, ask yourself this question: Am I giving fair value for the wages or money I hope to make? Honesty and dishonesty become a habit. Some people practice dishonesty and can lie with a straight face. Others lie so much that they don’t even know what the truth is anymore. But who are they deceiving? Themselves






*A little boy went to a telephone booth which was at the cash counter of a store and dialed a number.

The store-owner observed and listened to the conversation:

Boy : “Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn?
Woman : (at the other end of the phone line) “I already have someone to cut my lawn.”

Boy : “Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price than the person who cuts your lawn now.”

Woman : I’m very satisfied with the person who is presently cutting my lawn.

Boy : (with more perseverance) “Lady, I’ll even sweep the floor and the stairs of your house for free.

Woman : No, thank you.With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver. The store-owner, who was listening to all this, walked over to the boy.

Store Owner : “Son… I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like to offer you a job.”

Boy : “No thanks,
Store Owner : But you were really pleading for one.
Boy : No Sir, I was just checking my performance at
the job I already have. I am the one who is working for that lady I was talking to!” *

** This is called self Appraisal”** Give your best and the world comes to you!!!!!


Mirror of Life


A son and his father were walking on the
Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams:
” AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”
To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating,
somewhere in the mountain:
” AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”
Curious, he yells: ” Who are you?”
He receives the answer: ” Who are you?”
Angered at the response, he screams: ” Coward!”
He receives the answer: ” Coward!”
He looks to his father and asks: ” What’s going
The father smiles and says: ” My son, pay
And then he screams to the mountain: ” I admire
The voice answers: ” I admire you!”
Again the man screams: ” You are a champion!”
The voice answers: ” You are a champion!”
The boy is surprised, but does not understand.
Then the father explains: ” People call this ECHO,
but really this is LIFE.
It gives you back everything you say or do.
Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.
If you want more love in the world, create more
love in your heart.
If you want more competence in your team,
improve your competence.
This relationship applies to everything, in all
aspects of life ;
Life will give you back everything you have given to

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Mentoring by Daniel Goleman


It was a small lesson, but one with lasting impact. As a high-profile, fast-track editor at a national magazine, she had a problem- I was prone to snap decisions, committing to projects in a moment of enthusiasm, then having to suffer through a torturous series of rewrites with authors that ended in their articles being killed. It was emotionally draining for me, and it created too much animosity and just plain pain.

But then she told me, my editor in chief taught me a phrase that has helped immensely.

What was that phrase?

“I will think about it.”

That simple bit of advice exemplifies coaching, which lies at the heart of developing others. Excellence in this competence is emerging as second only to team leadership among superior managers. For sales managers, developing others is even more important- the competence most frequently found among those at the top of the field.

This is a person-to-person art, the heart of coaching and developing is the act of counselling. And the effectiveness of counseling hinges on empathy and the ability to focus on our own feelings and share them.

Credibility by Daniel Goleman


The inventor of a promising new product, a two-chamber air mattress that had the competitive advantage of preserving body heat, tells of talking to a businessman who offered to manufacture and sell the mattresses, giving the inventor a royalty. The businessman, over the course of their conversation, revealed with some pride that he never paid any taxes. How do you do that- the inventor asked. The businessman replied smugly-I keep two sets of books. The inventor asked- So which set of books will you use to record the sales of my mattresses to compute the royalty you owe me.

To that question there was no reply. End of deal.

Credibility stems from integrity. Star performers know that trustworthiness at work translates into letting people know one’s values and principles, intentions and feelings, and acting in ways that are reliably consistent with them. They are forthright about their own mistakes, and confront others about their lapses.

From- Working with EI

Just-say-no by Daniel Goleman


Six friends, all in college, were drinking and playing cards late into the night when an argument broke out. Mack and Ted’s disagreement got louder and angrier until Mack flew into a rage, yelling and screaming-at which point Ted became noticeably cool and reserved. But Mack’s temper was now out of control, he stood up and challenged Ted to a fight. Ted responded to Mack’s goading very calmly, saying he would consider fighting Mack, but only if they finished playing the card game.

Mack, though boiling with rage, agreed. During the several minutes it took to play out the game, everyone else took Ted’s lead and finished the game as though nothing had happened. This gave Mack time to settle down and collect his thoughts. At the end of the hand Ted calmly told Mack- Now if you would like to discuss this further, I will step outside.  But Mack, who by now had had time to quiet down and think things over, apologised for his temper, and there was no fight.

They met again 20 years later, at their school reunion. Ted had a successful career in commercial real estate, while Mack was out of work and struggling with drugs and alcohol.

The contrast between Mack and Ted is telling testimony of the benefits of being able to say no to impulse.

From- Working with EI

Life around Strength by Buckingham et al


Sherie S. took a pragmatic approach to building her life around her strengths. Sherie is now a successful doctor, but years ago during medical school she made a rather disturbing discovery, she did not like being around sick people. SInce a doctor who does not like sick people seems as incongruous as an investor who does not risk, she began to question her chosen career. Rather than bemoaning her poor choice, however she took stock of her patterns of thinking and feeling, and gradually came to three realizations. She did indeed enjoy healing people, just not very sick people, she was driven by a constant need for achievement that was best satisfied when she could see tangible and regular proof of progress, these two distinct patterns could prove surprisingly powerful if she made her speciality dermatology.

Now, she plays to her strengths everyday. Her patients are rarely gravely ill, their illnesses are tangible, and their progress toward recovery is evident on their skin for all to see.