Today an ex-boss visited our home and we together remembered the old days.
I reminded him how he had taught me never to lose enthusiasm come what may and told that I am passing on this wisdom to my juniors. He had also told us that if someone invites you to a family function, it means he respects you enough to include in the list of select invitees. So you must never take such invite casually but rather as a special treatment. He not only preached this but practised also. Once he was hospitalised for some problem, and when he got discharged, next day there was an invite and he took the trouble of going there. It did impress me.
Today he shared another philosophy which I am aniways trying to adapt. Which is try to be happy in the happiness of others specially your friends and competitors. He gave an example of how he becomes happy as and when his batchmate and a close friend gets promoted, even before him.
He also shared how if you have power to make a difference in the life of one person or more, you must do it. One must not trivialise the problem if a person comes to you for help in your official capacity. People tend to generalise the issue and don’t help, but that is a wrong tendency.
He also shared how he had to face problems in his career because he took principled stand and fought with bosses. He had to move from one place to other and from one boss to another but god was kind enough to take care of him always.
He always used to treat us with respect even while assigning work. His Ps and Qs were always a welcome change from the shouting bosses.
I had always had this grudge against him that he dilly-dallied and tried to stop my transfer near to my hometown. He maybe intuitively knew that or heard from somewhere. As he was today saying how he tried to help in my transfer, and his deputy was against it. Full circle. But then I was not even given a farewell when I left the place after 9 years. It is still fresh in my mind after 7 years. I was also transferred to a remote unit for 2 years, and I was angry with this boss for not stopping that. He told today that even he was upset with my transfer-out that is why he got me back as soon as he got the chance. And he did. So he took care of two grudges I had against him, so to say.
Though I shall always be grateful to him for twice helping us when we had some personal issues, about which I have shared in another post.
So all in all it was a sweet and nostalgic meeting him after so many years.
There are very few people like him, who take mentoring seriously. May his tribe increase.