Denial by Daniel Goleman


We all share this tendency toward denial, an emotionally comfortable strategy that protects us from the distress that acknowledging the harsh truth would bring. Defensiveness takes many forms- minimizing the facts, filtering out crucial information, rationalization and good excuses, anything to rob the facts of their emotional truth.

And people around us may tend to collude with denial. Among the more difficult kinds of info to get in orgn is honest, constructive feedback about how we are doing, specially our lapses. Coworkers, subordinates, and bosses have an easier time complaining to each other out of earshot of a person than having an honest and open talk with the person about what is wrong. …

Whenever someone consistently mishandles a given situation, that is a sure sign of a blind spot. In the lower reaches of orgn, such problems can more easily be dismissed as quirks. But at higher levels these problems are magnified in consequence and visibility, the adverse effects matter not just to the person who has them, but to the group as a whole.

Here is a list of some more common blind spots…

Blind ambition

Unrealistic goals

Relentless striving

Drives others

Power hungry

Insatiable need for recognition

Preoccupation with appearances

Need to seem perfect

From- WOrking with EMotional Intelligence


About my2twobits

I am a 40+ male PR executive from India. I have deliberately kept my identity hidden so that I can freely, frankly open my heart and share my feelings about people I know from work and outside. Hope you enjoy the resulting emotional free-flow in my posts. I do fear and dread the day when my identity is disclosed and I may be forced to totally delete this blog, unless of course a publisher comes with an interesting offer ;)

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